Relationship Rescue for Wives and Girlfriends of Internet Pornography Addicts

Psychology of Men Struggling with Internet Porn





Those struggling with porn addiction or sex addiction turn to porn for a variety of reasons masking depression, anxiety and financial or professional stress, but all get the same chemical payoff. Addiction to porn is just as real as other addictions: drugs, gambling and alcohol.  The chemicals in the porn addict brain - adrenalin, dopamine and serotonin - are strong enough to cause withdrawal 
symptoms in some men. Addicts report the sensation of viewing porn is a concentrated version of the rush you feel when you are first in love and intimate. Over time, the porn addicted brain will become over-reliant on receiving another dose of mood-altering chemicals producing to urge to surf. If a user becomes compulsive with online activity to produce a change in mood, porn addiction is born.

Many become lost in the action of surfing for images. It is a safe fantasy world full of excitement, flirting and imagining being in the action on screen.  When in this state, porn addicts can feel a sense of peace, contentment and control over their environment.  It is possible they may not have an orgasm or even get an erection. Many porn addicts report they are able to easily surf for three to four hours daily.   That’s 21 to 28 hours a week…the equivalent of a part time job!  If you combine this schedule with existing obligations of an average employed American male –  8-9 hours on the job, 8 hours sleeping, 1 hour commuting – that leaves only 2-3 hours of free time each day to interact with wives or significant others.  Some porn addicts report increased daily use of up to 5-6 
hours a day.  For these seriously addicted men, this level could mean surfing for porn during every available moment of their day. It is no wonder the sex lives of these addicts diminish or cease altogether and the partners feel abandoned and isolated.


Most men facing  problems with porn claim they are more sexual than the average person thereby
rationalizing their need to rely upon porn. In most cases their sexual batteries are charged up
because of their behavior, focusing on the sex act for many hours a day, and not their genetics.


Initially a user may be satisfied viewing soft versions of pornography. Viewed over time, the level of arousal begins to decline which leads addicts to look for more explicit materials to maintain the sexual charge they seek. Addicts understand their actions are shameful and could lead to them to acting out in a downward spiral. Some may expand their activities to visiting strip clubs, massage parlors, prostitutes or downloading gay or child pornography. Some porn sites attempt to become more interactive to further engage them. One big draw is live women - sites featuring live women on web cams performing very explicit sexual acts. Others offer posting of nude photos and the ability for a user to email other  women – both locally and out of area.

Over time it is possible for a porn addict to blur the lines of reality and the online porn world.

Psychological changes don't just stop with the user. Read on to learn
how porn addiction affects the users' wives or significant others.

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