Relationship Rescue for Wives and Girlfriends of Internet Pornography Addicts

Unmasking The Porn Monster





 
In the PAH confidential survey of wives and girlfriends of men addicted to Internet pornography, a basic question was asked:

What is your personal view of pornography in general?


The PAH respondents were split about 50-50 with half having watched porn themselves on occasion. For those members, this article may contain few surprises. For the women that have little if any exposure to pornography, this article may be very eye opening. You are on the PAH site so you already know how regular overuse of porn can undermine marriages and relationships. But do you know how porn can change how your husband or boyfriend views the world through 'pornified' glasses? At times it is difficult to read your spouse or partner: withdrawn, angry, aggressive, combative. As you work together to salvage your relationship, it may be helpful to get a clear idea of the content of today's pornography. How can you beat this monster if you don't fully understand what porn promotes and why it is so damaging? Although a picture is worth a thousand words, PAH will attempt to provide a brief primer on the general themes and content existing in pornography today without use of actual imagery or links to such sites. Our goal of PAH is to rescue relationships, not promote the porn industry! Some of the material by default will be graphic in nature. If you have a weak stomach or do not
care for X-rated language, PAH will attempt to cull out the most vivid material so you can choose not to read it and still get the gist of this article.

Last year at the Pornography and Pop Culture conference at Boston's Wheelock College, academic researchers Robert Wosnitzer, Ana Bridges, and Michelle Chang presented 
Mapping the Pornographic Text: Content Analysis Research of Popular Pornography. Their study analyzed the 50 recent top selling porn films (DVD, VHS) selected from lists compiled by Adult Video News, the leading trade journal of the porn industry. Their 71-minute presentation is available on Google Video.

These most popular 50 films were comprised of 304 individual scenes. Within those 304 scenes, a total of 3,376 acts of aggression were counted. That end up averaging an aggressive act 
every minute and a half. Each scene on average contained eleven and a half acts of verbal or physical aggression. This study defined aggression and violence as any action causing or attempting to cause physical or psychological harm to oneself, to another person, animal or inanimate object, intentionally or accidentally, whereby physical harm is understood as
assaulting another verbally and nonverbally.

Their findings for the best selling 50 porn titles:


Pornography and Pop Culture

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